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Everyone says it, “This year I am going to {insert whatever}!”

And they mean it.
And when I say, new year, new me.  I mean it too…but I am just talking about my Avatar and the image I use of myself around the internet.

I got to thinkin’ after my Facebook Star post, that the picture I am using is almost 3 years old.  And really, is 3 years a big deal?  Nah, but three years ago, I was in my 30’s.

Now, I am not.

I have also accepted my extra pounds and I don’t know when that happened, but I have a few pictures that I really like right now, so Heck, may as well use them.

Here were my choices:

Yeah, you geussed it.
I picked the one in the middle!

Tears cannot restore her —

therefore I weep.

In a New Hampshire cemetery.

I have mixed feelings about an obituary that ran in a California paper this past week.  If you haven’t seen Dolores Aguilar’s Obit… go read it.  I will wait.  Heck, read the comments, very interesting in their own right.  An’ it’s true! (I snope’d it ya’ll)

I am a bit torn-
Girl on the left (my free spirit-emotional side) is cheerin’ the family on for having the ovaries (and nad’s-depending on yer gender) to actually publish such an announcement.  She is hopin’ that such a declaration will give this family some peace-that is sounds like, they so desperately need.

Girl on the right (my b*tch in a business suit-the non emotional “facts only” side) thinks that this is a disgrace.  Apparently their mama didn’t raise them right if they are goin’ around talkin’ about this stuff in public-in the local paper no less.  “well, that is California-and obviously NOT the south!”

Then there is me-the author of this blog, The girl in the middle.  She  feels sad for Dolores and all her kids.  Not knowing the whole story really doesn’t matter.  No body’s mama is perfect (just ask my 13 yr old)-we have all done something to put our kids in therapy for years.  We have all had something done to us.  I know someone who still is bitter because his mama sold his Star Wars collection rather than pay to move it back over seas-25 years ago when they were still “new”.  (Ok granted, those puppies are now worth the price to move them over seas every week for the next 30 years…but that is beside the point).  And then other people who’s parents abandoned them-moved away-left them to be raised by (possibly) Dolores sister (on the evil scale)-yet they turned out fine-and can even tell amazing stories about the experience.

I can’t really say life is what you make it, because so many things are beyond our control…but maybe life IS what your attitude makes of it?  That mooshes in a ton of different factors-like your faith or lack of it.

I know that no matter the real story behind Dolores and her kids that the survivors need ALL of our prayers and compassion that they can work to make the rest of their days brighter.

What do you think?